[Her grip on Jane's shoulder gets just a bit firmer, hoping to reassure her in some small way.]
I do not know the exact details of what has happened, to make you feel so much responsibility- but I do not believe it is anything healthy.
If people have made you feel like this, as if you always have to be perfect, that everything which goes wrong is your fault, then they have been placing a horrible burden onto you with their compliments.
You are a person, Jane. Fallible, and imperfect. You cannot do everything right, and you certainly cannot be expected to do everything alone.
No matter how many times you defy the odds, there are times that you will not- and I only wish that you were not in a situation where the stakes were so high, and that people made you feel like it was your fault when the odds got the better of you.
[She... hopes she's making sense. That her words will be able to reach Shepard in some small way, at least.
It's unlikely to change her ways of thinking- even if she agrees, there is a stark difference between knowing something is true, and feeling that something is true. It's clearly something deep, an attitude that has been reinforced by countless events in her life and constant praise building her up- which only makes it so much more crushing when she inevitably fails at something. Praise can be cruel like that, sometimes.
Hopefully, it will be a small step though. A small bit of letting her know it's okay- that might change how she feels in the future.]
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[Her grip on Jane's shoulder gets just a bit firmer, hoping to reassure her in some small way.]
I do not know the exact details of what has happened, to make you feel so much responsibility- but I do not believe it is anything healthy.
If people have made you feel like this, as if you always have to be perfect, that everything which goes wrong is your fault, then they have been placing a horrible burden onto you with their compliments.
You are a person, Jane. Fallible, and imperfect. You cannot do everything right, and you certainly cannot be expected to do everything alone.
No matter how many times you defy the odds, there are times that you will not- and I only wish that you were not in a situation where the stakes were so high, and that people made you feel like it was your fault when the odds got the better of you.
[She... hopes she's making sense. That her words will be able to reach Shepard in some small way, at least.
It's unlikely to change her ways of thinking- even if she agrees, there is a stark difference between knowing something is true, and feeling that something is true. It's clearly something deep, an attitude that has been reinforced by countless events in her life and constant praise building her up- which only makes it so much more crushing when she inevitably fails at something. Praise can be cruel like that, sometimes.
Hopefully, it will be a small step though. A small bit of letting her know it's okay- that might change how she feels in the future.]